Relationship Spread #1

 

 

Difficulty: Easy

This tarot spread is easy to read, like a convenient chart. In this spread, court cards generally indicate actual people with the same characteristics. Knights (or corresponding princes, but not kings) and queens are meant to represent actual men and women in this tarot spread. Look for patterns in the cards as always.

Card #1 is the overall significator of the relationship. The two columns on either side of the significator characterise each individual's role in the relationship. The relationship does not have to be romantic. In fact, it could be a relationship between a person and a group, or even how two groups relate.

The top row, cards #7 & #2, is about the conscious thoughts of each person, or what they think about the relationship and likewise how they view their partner.

The middle row, cards #6 & #3, reveals the way each individual feels about the other. Emotional awareness corresponds to a person's unconscious thoughts that run deep, affecting a person in ways he or she is not fully aware of.

The bottom row, cards #5 & #4, represents the way each person behaves, in other words the stance taken regarding the relationship. The way a person acts may be genuine, but sometimes people are phony and manipulative, so it is best to weigh this card against the other person's cards to determine how they match up.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your Relationship #1 Reading

	You		Other Person
Thought	XIV – Temperance, Reversed		Nine of Wands, Reversed
Emotion	Page of Cups	The Significator King of Swords, Reversed	XVIII – The Moon, Reversed
External Stance	Queen of Swords		Nine of Swords, Reversed

 

 

 

 

The Significator

King of Swords, Reversed

The King of Swords represents authority and intellectual power. This card embodies a figure who is not just intelligent but also disciplined and fair. As the master of his intellect, the King of Swords is a strategist, someone able to think critically, make logical decisions, and lead with wisdom and integrity. His sword symbolises truth, communication, and rational thought, and he uses these qualities to rule with honesty and justice. This king is known for his ability to detach from emotions and approach situations objectively, making him an effective problem-solver, leader, and advisor.

Reversed, the King of Swords suggests a misuse of power, poor judgement, or a lack of clarity in communication. You may be struggling to make decisions or acting with manipulation, harshness, or intellectual dishonesty. The reversed King of Swords can indicate someone who is overbearing, cold, or rigid in their thinking, leading to conflict or misunderstanding. Perhaps, you may find it difficult to detach from emotions when objectivity is needed. This card, Reversed, urges you to examine your motives and communication style and bring balance back to your intellect and emotional awareness. It may also indicate a need to seek counsel or guidance from someone with a clearer perspective.

In Relationships: The King of Swords represents clear communication, fairness, and rational decision-making. This card suggests you may need to approach your romantic life maturely, detaching from emotional impulses and focusing on open communication. The King of Swords values honesty and will not tolerate deceit or manipulation. He seeks a partner who can engage in intellectual conversation and mutual respect. While this card may point to a relationship built on solid communication and intellectual connection, it can also indicate a need to avoid being detached or unemotional in love. The King of Swords reminds you to strike a balance between reason and emotional depth in your relationships.

In Work: The King of Swords signifies a position of leadership, decision-making, or authority. You may be in a role where you must lead with intellect, communicate clearly, and make complex decisions. This card suggests your success is tied to your ability to think critically, maintain fairness, and remain objective. The King of Swords also encourages you to embrace your intellectual strengths, whether in a position of power or a field requiring analysis and strategy. It may also indicate the presence of a mentor or advisor who embodies these qualities. The King of Swords could indicate a legal, academic, or advisory role where logic and communication are paramount.

Spiritually: The King of Swords represents wisdom, higher knowledge, and authority. You may be seeking greater understanding or guidance, and this card encourages using your intellect and discernment to find the answers you seek. The King of Swords urges you to be truthful with yourself and seek spiritual growth through disciplined study, meditation, or inner reflection. This card can indicate the need for spiritual leadership, either as you take on a guiding role for others or seek a mentor who can help you navigate your spiritual path. The King of Swords reminds you that spiritual insight comes not just from emotion but from the disciplined and thoughtful exploration of truth.

 

 

 

 

The Querent's Thoughts

XIV – Temperance, Reversed

Temperance represents balance, harmony, moderation, and healing. This card embodies the principle of integrating opposites and finding equilibrium within oneself and in the world. An angel or ethereal figure pours water from one cup to another, the imagery of Temperance suggests the blending of two elements to create something harmonious. The flowing water symbolises the steady flow of energy, while the angel's wings and serene expression point to a divine guidance in achieving harmony. This card teaches the importance of moderation, patience, and self-control in all areas of life.

Reversed, temperance can indicate imbalance, excess, or a lack of harmony in your life. It suggests you may be overindulging in certain areas, whether in emotions, behaviours, or actions, leading to stress, burnout, or disharmony. This card reversed warns against extreme reactions, impulsiveness, or trying to force situations to align with your desires. It can also indicate a failure to find middle ground in relationships or work, leading to conflict or dissatisfaction. Temperance reversed encourages you to reassess your approach, seek a more balanced and measured path, and take the time to heal areas of your life that feel out of alignment.

In Relationships: Temperance suggests that balance and harmony are key in your relationship. It may indicate the need for moderation in how emotions, time, and energy are shared between partners. This card encourages you to avoid extremes—whether in expectations, communication, or attachment—and instead find a balanced approach that fosters mutual respect, understanding, and patience. Temperance speaks to a steady connection, where both partners support each other's growth while maintaining their individuality. It can also indicate healing in relationships, whether overcoming challenges or finding a new sense of balance and understanding between two people.

In Work: Temperance signifies a time for finding balance in one's professional life. This card encourages you to manage your workload, relationships, and responsibilities with grace and moderation, avoiding burnout and stress. It may suggest the need for collaboration or the blending of unique skills or talents to achieve success. Temperance reminds you that steady, thoughtful progress, rather than hasty or extreme actions, is the key to long-term success. This card can also point to a need for healing in the workplace, whether it's resolving conflicts or restoring calm to a stressful environment.

Spiritually: Temperance represents the pursuit of inner balance and integration. This card invites you to align your physical, emotional, and spiritual selves into a harmonious whole, finding peace through moderation, patience, and acceptance. It encourages you to seek spiritual growth through balance rather than extreme practices or rigid beliefs. Temperance suggests that spiritual enlightenment can be achieved when the seeker is in harmony with both the inner self and the external world. It is a reminder that the path to spiritual fulfilment is about maintaining balance and being open to divine guidance.

 

 

 

 

The Other Person's Thoughts

Nine of Wands, Reversed

The Nine of Wands represents resilience, perseverance, and the strength to endure adversity. The ninth card in the Suit of Wands indicates that you have been through a series of challenges or struggles but are still standing strong, holding on to what you have worked for. Depicted as a figure standing defensively, with one wand raised and a weary expression, the Nine of Wands shows a person who has been through a battle, yet continues to guard their position. This card suggests you are at a critical juncture, where your ability to withstand your trials will determine whether you can achieve the eventual success you seek.

Reversed, the Nine of Wands can indicate feeling overwhelmed, burnt out, or unable to continue pushing forward. You may be struggling to maintain your energy or feeling like you've reached your limit. The reversed Nine of Wands may also suggest that you have become overly defensive or guarded, possibly even shutting others out or losing trust. This card warns against giving up too easily, as you may be closer to your goal than you realise. It encourages you to reassess your boundaries and seek ways to replenish your energy and spirit before continuing. It may also point to the need to ask for support, as trying to endure everything alone may not be sustainable.

In Relationships: The Nine of Wands indicates emotional exhaustion or defensiveness in the relationship. You or your partner may have been through emotional challenges, possibly involving past hurts, misunderstandings, or relationship struggles. This card suggests there is still a desire to protect the relationship, but it also indicates that one or both parties may feel worn out by the emotional toll. The Nine of Wands encourages you to maintain your boundaries and stay resilient, but to avoid becoming too defensive or shutting down. For those in a difficult or testing relationship, this card advises perseverance and faith in the relationship's potential for growth and healing. It also asks you to be aware of emotional fatigue and ensure you are not staying in a situation solely out of a sense of obligation.

In Work: The Nine of Wands suggests you have been through a series of struggles or obstacles in your professional life. You may feel the weight of setbacks or the pressure to maintain your success. This card encourages you to stay resilient and trust in your ability to overcome the final hurdles. While you may feel tired or worn down, the Nine of Wands indicates you are close to achieving your goals and that one last push of effort may be needed to achieve success. It is also a reminder to remain cautious and guard against burnout, as your energy levels may be low. The Nine of Wands advises you to pace yourself, acknowledge how far you've come, and use your inner strength to push through the last challenges.

Spiritually: The Nine of Wands represents a time when you are testing your endurance and strength. This card suggests you may feel weary or worn out, having faced trials or challenges on your spiritual journey. However, the Nine of Wands encourages you to remain steadfast and trust that you are close to a breakthrough. It signifies the need to continue on the spiritual path, even when things seem difficult or uncertain. You are urged to tap into your spiritual reserves and maintain your faith, knowing that perseverance will lead to greater insight and growth. The Nine of Wands also suggests the need for spiritual protection, reminding you to guard your energy and remain resilient in the face of challenges.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Querent's Emotions

Page of Cups

The Page of Cups represents emotional curiosity, creativity, and exploring new experiences. Depicted as a youthful figure holding a cup with a fish emerging from it, the Page of Cups embodies wonder and openness to emotional or intuitive growth. This card signals a time when you may be open to new emotional experiences, artistic pursuits, or spiritual insights. It encourages you to embrace your inner child and explore your feelings with innocence, receptivity, and playfulness.

The Page of Cups also represents the awakening of intuition and creativity. The fish emerging from the cup symbolises the flow of inspiration and ideas, suggesting you may receive new emotional or intuitive insights or are being called to pursue creative or artistic endeavours. This card asks you to stay open to new possibilities, trust your emotions, and be willing to take a leap of faith to explore what lies beneath the surface of your feelings.

In Relationships: The Page of Cups suggests the beginning of a new romantic experience or emotional adventure. It represents the excitement of falling in love or exploring feelings for someone new, often with an open heart and a sense of wonder. The Page of Cups may indicate the blossoming of a relationship filled with creativity and inspiration. The card signals a time of emotional renewal, where you may be rediscovering your feelings or expressing your love in creative ways. This card also encourages you to embrace vulnerability and trust your emotional instincts in matters of the heart, suggesting that genuine love comes when you open up to your emotions with honesty and playfulness.

In Work: The Page of Cups represents new creative opportunities or an emotional approach to work. This card signals that you may be on the verge of a new creative project or feel inspired to explore a career path that allows for artistic expression. The Page of Cups encourages you to approach your professional endeavours with an open mind and a sense of emotional connection, allowing your intuition and creativity to guide you. It may also indicate a need to reconnect with passion or enthusiasm for your work, suggesting that following your heart or creative impulses can lead to fulfilment.

Spiritually: The Page of Cups represents the beginning of a new phase of spiritual growth and emotional exploration. It indicates a time when you are open to receiving new insights, intuitive messages, or spiritual guidance. The Page of Cups encourages you to trust your inner voice and intuition, which may lead to deeper spiritual truths. This card also suggests you may be called to explore creative practices as spiritual expression, helping you to connect with your higher self. The Page of Cups invites you to embrace your emotional sensitivity and spiritual openness, trusting that your feelings and intuition will guide you.

 

 

 

 

The Other Person's Emotions

XVIII – The Moon, Reversed

The Moon represents intuition, illusion, the subconscious, and hidden truths. It invites you to explore the realm of the unconscious mind, dreams, and intuition. A moonlit landscape with a wolf and a dog howling at the moon, a path winding through rocky terrain, and a crab emerging from the water symbolises the mysterious and sometimes deceptive nature of the mind. The moonlight casts shadows, obscuring as much as it illuminates. It invites you to look beyond appearances to understand deeper meanings or hidden emotions. This card suggests there may be illusions, confusion, or uncertainty in a situation, and it encourages you to trust your intuition to navigate through the unknown.

Reversed, the Moon can indicate confusion, disillusionment, or a lack of clarity. It suggests you may be facing self-deception, illusions, or hidden fears preventing you from seeing the truth. The reversed Moon may also point to heightened anxiety, emotional instability, or difficulty discerning between reality and fantasy. It encourages you to take a step back, clear your mind, and confront any underlying fears or uncertainties. The reversed Moon calls for self-awareness, urging you to trust your inner guidance while being wary of false beliefs or misinterpretations. It may also suggest that you avoid facing your emotions or truths and must work to overcome this.

In Relationships: The Moon suggests there may be confusion, misunderstandings, or illusions. It could indicate that one or both partners are hiding their feelings, or there are secrets to be revealed. This card warns against jumping to conclusions or making assumptions based on surface-level information. The Moon encourages open communication and honesty, urging you to trust your intuition and dig deeper into your emotions. It can also signify a period of emotional uncertainty or mood swings, where clarity may come only after introspection and reflection. This card asks you to be patient with yourself and your partner.

In Work: The Moon suggests there may be hidden factors or uncertainties surrounding a work situation. It encourages you to look beyond the surface. There may be deception, miscommunication, or unclear motivations at play, and you should be cautious about trusting everything you hear or see. This card can also indicate a time of emotional vulnerability in the workplace, when intuition may be more reliable than logic. The Moon invites you to listen to your gut feelings and avoid making decisions without understanding the situation. It may also point to a need for creative or intuitive solutions, as the path forward may not be clear.

Spiritually: The Moon represents the journey into the subconscious mind and the exploration of hidden aspects of the self. This card calls for introspection, inviting you to uncover and confront your fears, desires, and unresolved emotions. The Moon encourages you to pay attention to your dreams, intuition, and inner messages, as these may hold the keys to spiritual growth. However, it also warns of illusions and misleading thoughts, urging you to approach your spiritual journey with caution and awareness. The Moon signifies that the path to enlightenment may be shrouded in mystery, and you must trust your inner wisdom and intuition to guide you.

 

 

 

 

The Querent's External Stance

Queen of Swords

The Queen of Swords represents intellect and independence. This card embodies a woman who is sharp, perceptive, and unafraid to speak her mind. With a keen intellect and a clear vision, the Queen of Swords can cut through confusion and see the truth of any situation. She represents mental clarity, objectivity, and a rational approach to problem-solving. The Queen holds her sword with authority, signifying her ability to assert herself and set boundaries. She is calm and composed, yet her mind is quick and discerning. Her energy is about using logic, reason, and communication to navigate life's challenges.

The Queen of Swords encourages you to embrace your intelligence and intuition. She is a symbol of emotional detachment in the sense that she does not allow her emotions to cloud her judgement. The Queen of Swords values truth, and her words carry weight; she will speak with precision, even if it means being blunt or cutting. This card may also suggest the need to adopt a more objective perspective, detach from emotional influence, and approach situations with a level-headed, logical attitude.

In Relationships: The Queen of Swords represents clear communication and an intellectual connection. This card suggests you may need to approach your romantic life honestly and directly. You may be called to express your needs, desires, and boundaries without hesitation. The Queen of Swords reminds you to maintain independence and not lose yourself in a relationship. It can also indicate the need to address misunderstandings or miscommunications and approach emotional situations logically. The Queen of Swords advises to balance intellect with emotional sensitivity in matters of love.

In Work: The Queen of Swords symbolises clear thinking, effective communication, and strategic planning. You may be in a position where you are required to make decisions based on logic, objective assessment, and insight. This card suggests trusting your intellectual abilities, deciding confidently, and communicating clearly with others. The Queen of Swords can also indicate a role where you must serve as a leader, counsellor, or advisor, using your wisdom and clear judgement to guide others. It may also suggest the need to remain professional and composed, using reason to handle any difficult situations that arise. The Queen of Swords reminds you to be independent and self-sufficient in your career, relying on your abilities rather than seeking validation from others.

Spiritually: The Queen of Swords represents inner wisdom. You may be seeking truth in your spiritual journey, and this card urges you to trust your insights and inner guidance. The Queen of Swords asks you to approach spirituality with objectivity and discernment, seeking wisdom from trusted sources while filtering out distractions or illusions. This card can also indicate a time of spiritual growth that requires a balance of intellect and intuition, where clear, focused thinking will help you navigate your path. The Queen of Swords represents the ability to cut through spiritual confusion and gain a deeper understanding of your true purpose.

 

 

 

 

The Other Person's External Stance

Nine of Swords, Reversed

The Nine of Swords represents anxiety, fear, cruelty, and emotional suffering. This card indicates a time of mental strain when you may be plagued by worries, sleepless nights, and overwhelming thoughts. A figure sits up in bed, hands on their face as if gripped by nightmares or regret. The swords in this card represent mental conflict and the destructive nature of excessive worry or fear. The Nine of Swords reveals that you are experiencing a period of distress, where your mind runs rampant with negative thoughts, self-criticism, or feelings of guilt.

Reversed, the Nine of Swords suggests that the worst of the mental anguish may be over, and you are beginning to heal from the emotional pain or stress that has plagued you. The reversal indicates you may be waking up from a period of intense worry, recognising that your fears were unfounded or exaggerated. It is a sign that you are gaining clarity and moving through the healing process. The reversed Nine of Swords can also suggest that you are beginning to confront your fears and take steps to overcome your anxieties. It encourages you to continue challenging negative thought patterns and focus on self-care, seeking support when needed.

In Relationships: The Nine of Swords suggests you are experiencing anxiety, fear, or guilt. This could involve obsessing over a mistake, worrying about the future of the relationship, or being consumed by doubts and insecurities. The card may point to sleepless nights or emotional stress caused by unresolved issues, fear of betrayal, or lingering misunderstandings. The Nine of Swords urges you to examine the source of your worries and recognise whether your fears are based on reality or exaggerated by your mind. It encourages open communication, self-compassion, and the need to address underlying issues.

In Work: The Nine of Swords represents stress, burnout, and overwhelming pressure. You may be facing significant anxiety about your job, career trajectory, or financial security. This card suggests you might be struggling with performance anxiety, fear of failure, or a sense of impending crisis. The Nine of Swords also indicates you may be overthinking a particular situation or obsessing over potential negative outcomes. It is a reminder to step back and assess the situation from a clearer perspective, rather than getting lost in fears of doom. The card encourages you to challenge irrational thoughts and focus on practical solutions, seeking help when possible.

Spiritually: The Nine of Swords indicates a period of anxiety, where you may feel disconnected from your path or overwhelmed by existential fears. This card suggests you are struggling with self-doubt, guilt, or fear of judgement, possibly questioning your beliefs, purpose, or connection to the divine. The Nine of Swords calls for self-reflection and addressing the inner turmoil blocking spiritual growth. It encourages you to release fear-based thinking and trust your higher self. This card reminds you that your spiritual journey does not need to be a source of fear or anxiety, but an opportunity for healing, peace, and trust in the greater flow of life.